First of all let us definite what's a wife. In Hebrew the word for woman is "ish-shah" which literally means "a female man"
For many people a good husband is an happy man, a great person, and most of us agree that behind every great man there is a great woman. Is it mean that there is any problem between them ? We know that is not possible because the perfect couple not exist, in that case how to face his wife when there is problem ?
To answer this question we have many approach as religion, African point of view, European point of view and life experiences of life.
This problem how to face his wife is not a problem at all for christian ( by saying christian people is really people who follow the law of Christianity ). Because we know that for christian according to 1 Cor. 11:3 " But I want YOU to know that the head of every man is the Christ; in turn the head of a woman is the man; in turn the head of the Christ is God." if you respect that the headship of the world is God and the headship of Christianity is Jesus, you must respect that the headship of woman is a man, because is the law, Sarah the woman of Abraham used to call him my mister. But we know that the husband don't have absolute authority over his wife, because he must answer to his head for the way that he exercises such headship. this is to show us how the husband have to take care of his wife, by doing that is to deal good with her, because they are only one flesh, by doing that he will face his wife in a good way. The religion ask us to take care of our wife like our own body, in any sense we will not hurt our body is mean that we will take good care of our wife. But is that what happens?
For many European, marriage is not anymore a serious matter you can easily understand by the increase of number of divorce every year. I asked for us Mr. Valentino a married man for 25 years in Italy how is facing his wife. He said " I consider my wife as a good friend, we share almost every of our free time together, as a good friend I know what she hates and what she likes. when we have problem, the first thing I am doing is to take time alone to think about the problem, and after I speak calmly as a friend with her, most of the time we succeed to fixe the problem." We asked the same question to Xavier a married man for 6 years in Paris, he said " if a problem arrive between my wife and me I will bring her gifts, every day one until she forgive me if I am the cause of problem."
For African people, is may seem easy to face her wives, the number of divorce are low and the "happy family" are many (live together forever ). To understand this we ask questions for some great man, I ask the same question to Mr. Taba how to face his wife? He said " in the beginning it was difficult but I can easily understand my father when he asked me to take a wife that I will be her elder for 8 years at least. Because if your wife is in the same age with you, you cannot lie to her. And to face your wife is not to beat her, like in the past, is just knowing to lie to her and by doing that well she will trust you. And you will not have any problem."
But life show us another thing, for many people, girls from American and European love African Boys because they are good in bed. It is true ? We asked the question to Mark a African boy. He said "it may be true, but something is sure to face my wife is not easy, I have many Europeans friends, I think the difference is that African boys take more care of wife. they do not buy big cars and flowers but they are always listening and they know when to said no".
